There are very few guys in this world who can say that they have never been nervous around a woman. Getting those butterflies in the tummy is part and parcel of being attracted to the opposite gender. Both men and women experience that on an equal level. However, societal norms dictate that men must be the ones to muster up all the confidence inside them and walk up to a girl to break the ice.
This is obviously easier said than done. Not every guy is blessed with the dazzling looks of Chris Hemsworth. If they were, they would not have to worry about going up to the women. The ladies would make their way to the men with no hesitation. Unfortunately, the average looking guy has a slender chance of impressing a woman with his facial features or hairstyle.
This is where confidence comes into play. The slick and stylish guy with the most confidence is usually the one who succeeds in grabbing the attention of the ladies. According to the laws of attraction, confidence is definitely the differentiator. Women appreciate men who have the courage to address them directly and communicate with them freely. Some guys are born with a truck load of confidence in their hearts, while others have to work hard to build it. If you happen to be in the second group of guys, here’s a few mind hacks to help you steal the girl’s heart:
1) Be Least Bothered By Rejection
What is the worst that can happen if you approach a girl? She is going to reject you. Men who are not afraid of rejection are the ones who are able to display the most confidence. Women are incredibly intelligent. It is almost as though they can smell the fear of rejection in men. Once a woman realizes that a particular man is not comfortable with the idea of being rejected and will be unable to handle it, she usually tries to keep her distance from him. No woman wants a cry baby who is going to be upset about a single rejection.
Do not come off as a desperate man looking for love. Women love men who like to keep their options open and have other things going on in their lives.
2) Show Your Strengths and Hide Your Weaknesses
When you are around women, you need to show them the positives a lot more than the negatives. If possible, hide the negatives altogether. The woman does not need to know what you are bad at or weak at. Just focus on properly conveying to her the message that you are the kind of man who is excellent and superb in more ways than one. Sure, women are not big fans of men who keep on bragging about themselves. However, a little bit of showboating every now and then might actually work quite well in your favour.
By relying on your strengths and concentrating solely on them, you will be able to get your confidence up a few notches. For example, if you are the kind of man who knows how to get people laughing with hilarious one-liners, stick to that wholeheartedly. Do not try to come off as a badass and groovy dude who is looking for some action. By being someone that you are not or by exposing your weaknesses, you will be basically make a fool out of yourself. If you are not sure of what your strengths and weaknesses are, go take help from your most trusted wingman. He’ll tell you exactly what you are good at and what you are horrible at.
3) Be Proactive, Not Reactive
Approaching a girl for a cup of coffee or for a drink at the bar can be compared to playing a slow and calculated game of chess. You need to plan each and every single one of your moves in advance. Do not allow the lady to completely dictate terms. Once she gains all the control, your fate will be left at her mercy. This is called being reactive. If all your conversations and actions are based on her reactions and responses, then you are doing it all wrong. You need to have a few tricks up your sleeves. In other words, you need to know exactly what you are about to say and what you are going to do.
Women love men who never run out of fun ways to keep the conversation alive and kicking. Make her feel comfortable and put her in a situation where she can talk with you freely without having to worry much about how you are going to perceive her. At that moment, you have the ball in your court and you will immediately experience a boost in your confidence level.