A relationship with a significant other can be joyous or it can be difficult and painful. You make it what it is by the things you do and the way you think towards it. I want to share with you some tips and advice to help you achieve a strong relationship that will last the test of time.
1. Never take out more than you put in. You need to build your relationship up strong. You don’t want to be breaking it down by taking more out than you put in. You should do at least twice as much as you expect someone to do back for you.
2. Always appreciate the other person. Never go long periods of time without telling them thank you for whatever it is they do or contribute. If they spend some time working on something then take notice and tell them how good they did. (The secret is to tell them how good they did even if you don’t think it’s the best. Effort is what matters most here.)
3. Accept the other person for exactly who they are. People do change. I know most people will tell you otherwise. It’s just a long hard process for even subtle changes. So you have to learn to love and care for them exactly how they are now. With enough positive reinforcement and focus you can get them to change a little, just like they may expect you to change a little as well.
4. Love your partner unconditionally. If you can’t do this then you don’t need to be in a serious relationship. Unconditionally means, no matter what. You can’t say because this or that, it’s no matter what they do or who they are.
5. Show the other person respect. If you expect them to respect you then you need to show them respect first. Lack of respect will cause long term problems.
6. Don’t say or do things you will regret later. Even if you feel the need to get even or your significant other has made you angry. Take the time to think about the consequences before you do anything rash.
7. Communicate to them about anything that either one of you may consider to be important. Talking and communicating about things is probably one of the most effective tips on my list.
8. Do little things here and there that are small, but let the other know you care. It might be stopping by the store and picking them up their favorite drink or candy bar. Just little things they don’t ask for make up all the difference in the world.
9. Don’t Fight! Fighting is dangerous for the stability of a relationship. If you fight to much or to often you will have a very tarnished connection with your spouse or girlfriend/boyfriend. Avoid at all costs.
10. Don’t let your other feel left out. You are going to still have friends and do stuff with other people. Don’t let you partner feel left out by never inviting them. Invite them out with your friends whenever you get the chance.
11. Work hard to maintain strong love making. This is very important for the long term stability of a relationship. You need to make sure you are making love at least a few times per week. If not there are resources out there to help you. Do a search for it if you need to know where to start.
There are my 11 tips for a happy and healthy relationship. Don’t ever throw away the relationship you have now or you will regret it later. They can always be fixed and improved no matter where you’re at. I would spend a lot of my time and energy building up a healthy one because the list of benefits would take up pages. Good Luck!