Learn How and Why You Need To Start Saying No More

Learn To Say No

Learning to say no is very simple, but so many people struggle with this everyday. It can be a major life changer for you and if utilized correctly will give you much more control over your life. This extra feeling of control will do you a world of good and overall help improve your mood. In this article I am going to first explain why you should say no and the benefits it will bring. After that I will give you some useful information to help you start saying no.

Benefits Of Saying No

  • More Happiness
  • Less Stress
  • Do What You Want
  • Feeling Of Control Over Your Life
  • You Will Be Pushed Around Much Less

Saying no is easy for some people and more difficult for others. If you are one of the people who constantly say yes to everything and possibly even fear the reactions of others if you say no then there is help. Saying no is a vital part of obtaining happiness. If you don’t learn how to say no you will end up doing everything everyone else wants you to do and never do anything for yourself. This can put you in a lot of situations that make you miserable. You should never feel like saying no will make someone not like you. A healthy relationship whether it be with friends or a significant other should contain some no’s. Keep in mind there is nothing wrong with saying no, but don’t do it all the time. A balance is more of what you’re looking for.

When you learn you can say no and start using it, it will feel as though you have gained a new control over your life. This extra freedom is a great feeling to have. You might even be surprised at some of the responses you get from other people. You might be expecting anger and dis-approvement, but you could just as easily receive respect and negotiations. People have a tendency to react differently than you would expect when you behave differently as well. Don’t be afraid to tell anyone no, including your boss, spouse, friend, family, or even a complete stranger.

When people realize that you will tell them no if you want to, then they won’t be as likely to push you around. Imagine a person who does whatever it is they are told to. The person telling them what to do can just drill them and drill them on whatever they want them to do.  This leads to being pushed around. If that person said no then the other person would more than likely stop pushing them around and either move on to somebody else or come up with another solution to their problem. Saying yes all the time to a bully will drain you emotionally of all the things you love.

Try to put your happiness into as many decisions as you can. If something is going to put you where you don’t want to be, then let the person asking you to do that thing know that you don’t want to. This will build you a lot of respect in the long run and make you a much happier person.

These are just some of the benefits to saying no. There are many more unmentioned ones and even some that are specific for each person and each situation. In the next section I am going to give you some advice to help you get started saying no. Remember to start out small before making that big leap into turning down something major. When you say no to the small stuff you begin to build up your confidence so that you will be able to stand your ground when the much bigger decisions come up.

Tips & Advice To Help You Say No

  • Don’t Worry About What Other People Think
  • Put Your Happiness First (Sometimes)
  • Just Do It
  • Say No To Small Things First
  • Think Before You Speak
  • Don’t Be Afraid To Ask For Time To Think
When you tell someone no the main thing for you to consider is your happiness. Don’t worry about what other people will think of you and how they might react. Believe in yourself and have faith in the decision you have made. It will make the problem worse if you tell someone no then change your mind a few moments later to keep from continuing the confrontation. Every situation is different and there may be some things that you have to do in order to keep your life going. For example you can’t just tell you boss you’re not going to come to work anymore and expect to keep getting a paycheck. Even though you do have this as an option be smart about your choices. You can easily turn down some optional overtime, but not going to work at all isn’t going to be a smart move in most cases. Don’t be afraid to ask for more time to make up a decision either.
Taking your time to make a decision ,especially a big one, will help you make the better choice. Sometimes when people are put on the spot they agree before they even think about what they are agreeing to. This impulse decision-making leads to more situations we don’t want to be in. If someone asks you to do something never be afraid to tell them ” I will get back with you in a minute.”
Build your confidence slowly on saying no. It will be much easier to say no to things like cooking dinner than it will be to tell your boss no about some extra work he wants you to do. Start with the small things and when a situation comes up where you will be totally unhappy doing it just say “no.”
After you start applying this to your life you will immediately notice the difference it makes. Saying no gives you a sense of freedom you can’t experience any other way. If you are a chronic yes-er then you have lost control of your life. Saying no will give you that control back and make you feel fresh again. Good luck and I know you can do this.